Involved and challenged every day

Jennifer Townsend,  Age 77

I have worked hard my entire life, beginning as a child, selling my mother’s baked goods door-to-door after school to get money for groceries. I raised 4 children as a ‘single mom’ – only there was no such concept in those days. I began college when my kids were young and later finished law school. This is all a lead up to the present. And to explain why, when I say I am working harder now, at age 77, than I have ever worked in my life, you will understand the context of ‘work.’

Everything I have done prior to now was a piece of cake compared to making a feature documentary. I have never been to film school, so I am learning as I go. For the past 2 1/2 years I have been producing, directing, and helping to edit a film about “Thelma & Louise,” the 1991 iconic Hollywood classic. It’s a bit of a long story and those who wish to learn more are invited to view the trailer on my website and read about it there: www.CatchingSightOf.com .

After I retired about 15 years ago I helped care for my sister who died a few years later. I did varying kinds of volunteer work. And I traveled extensively on as low a budget as possible. I almost always traveled alone and stayed in hostels and homes of people I met along the way. I have lots of great stories about those experiences. My hope is that, the next time I travel will be later this year, to film festivals where my film will be showing. It’s not finished yet. Editing is done and we’re working on an original score. We still have color correction and sound mix to do.

When I discovered your blog today, through a friend’s email, I was inspired to share what keeps me so involved and challenged every day. And, yes, sometimes scared, too. So many decisions to make each day. Am I making the best ones? Am I really up to doing this? How did I ever convince myself to take on such a monumental project at my age? But I know, in the end, it will be so worthwhile and satisfying, I will forget about this uphill battle. Some days I say ‘it’s making me old before my time.’ But it IS my time and I’m already old.

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Thank you for doing this blog.
Jennifer
Jennifer Townsend, Producer/Director
Far Beyond Film, LLC
www.catchingsightof.com

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Thankful

Sandra,  Age 68

Today is my 68th birthday – hooray for me.
1. I am thankful that I made it this far. I look forward to the morning each night when I go to bed.
2. I am thankful that I will be travelling with my 13 year old grandson this summer. He and I have shared many wonderful adventures.
3. I am thankful that my son has a wife who loves him. Married at 39 for the first time!!
4. I am thankful for my 4 month old grandaughter. Her mom says she has a “big personality” and I agree.
5. I am thankful that my mom has the resources to live in assisted living which she thought she would hate, but absolutely loves. Thanks to all of the caring people at Sunrise Edina.
6. I am thankful that there are more wonderful books to read than I could ever finish in my lifetime.
7. I am thankful that I created a space to live that warms my soul.
8. I am thankful for some wonderful friendships; laughter and comfort.
9. I am thankful I learned to live with disappointments and adversity and find joy.
9. I am thankful for this day and any more that I get.

Happy birthday to me.

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My passage as a grandmother

Pat,  Age 71
I’d like to share my latest blog post on my passage as a grandmother, relishing in the joys and learning from the challenges:
http://wowblog.me/the-education-of-a-grandmother

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Discombobulated

Frances,  Age 78

Dear Ellen and Jane,

I discovered your 70 Candles blog only days ago and am happily working my way through all the postings, starting with December 2010.

My own 70 Candles event was eight years ago, when other factors were starting to change my life, apart from the big seven-o. Now, after devoting several years to caring for my late beloved husband, and having made it through the first couple of years of widowhood, I have been feeling utterly discombobulated to find myself at 78, wondering how I got here. I seem to be missing a few years, which gives a sense of urgency about making the most of what remains. So it’s a delight to find your blog with input from other women. Thank you for creating it!

All the best to you both!
Frances

 

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Wondering where to live next

Anonymous,   Age 71

Reading your book after it was on a reading list at my recent 50th college reunion. I am blessed to have a healthy husband, wonderful friends locally and a family spread out across the country as well as a mid-nineties mother who lives far away.
Interestingly, recently I seem to be fixated on housing options as depicted on my new favorite TV shows: Fixer Upper, Treehouse Masters, and Tiny House Nation. (The latter has triggered an extremely satisfying multi-week clean-out of both of our bedroom closets.) While I would never choose Joanna Gaines’ style of decorating or live in a tree or downsize to 200 square feet, I am spending increasing amounts of time contemplating future housing options and not succeeding in finding any creative solutions locally. Luckily we have no plans now, but I do love to plan ahead.

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Is it too late for me to start a business?

Sandra,  Age 70

I turned 70 in January. I had never been concerned with age but all of a sudden I felt almost desperate. I am running out of time.

Five years ago my husband died after having been ill and needing constant in home care for twelve years. I shut down. No job, no purpose, no husband, no life. I found the sofa and we became close inseparable friends.

Two years ago it occurred to me that the sofa might become the center of my life for the next twenty years. Ouch. I determined to get up and start to move. I started to walk. I lost 100 pounds and now walk five miles daily. I have made a list for myself of everything I want to do everyday, from cleaning the litter box to reading an hour a day. I paint everyday. I read and post on Facebook everyday. I post my art on several sites daily. I pray in our church prayer ministry twice weekly, attend a widows group monthly. I have joined an artists guild last month and have placed twelve paintings for viewing in a doctors office. I volunteer at my church helping to make plastic mats for the homeless. Then today I was looking at a site for selling artwork suggestions and they asked me to answer the question “Where do you want to be in ten years?” That question is what brought me to this blog.

Do I really want to start an art business at 70? Is it my time? When are we no longer relevant?

I have two daughters who are very loving and supportive and three grandsons who live three doors from me. I am very blessed with prefect health and a few good friends. Several of my friends have died in the last 5 years and some of them were in their 70s.

I was looking for an answer from some of your stories. I guess I want to be alive in ten years and active. Does it matter what I choose to do with my time? From your stories it seems not too much. I wish I could be more content to relax but I need to be busy. Do I need an art career? Maybe I just need to do the work and show it but the challenge of building a business in my 70s seems kind of fun in a strange sort of way. It is helping me to learn the computer.

I wish you all peace and contentment and fulfillment.

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Our interview by blogger JudiBoomergirl

“70Candles!” Shares Advice on Positive Aging
Posted on May 18, 2016 by Judi
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Last month, The New York Times journalist Jane Brody wrote an article about “Thriving at Age 70 and Beyond.” I enjoy reading Jane’s weekly columns on Personal Health, but this one was especially appealing. Jane mentioned a blog called 70Candles!, with stories from women in their 70s, and a book by the same title written by bloggers (and now authors) Jane Giddan and Ellen Cole.

While I am fast approaching my 60s, I was intrigued by the advice that these two long-term friends had to share about how women are “thriving in their 8th decade.” I contacted Jane and Ellen to ask if they would participate in an interview for my blog. Their wisdom about positive aging is very inspiring for baby boomer women who are following in their footsteps. It’s great to know that there is much to look forward to into our 70s, 80s, 90s, and maybe 100s! (Note: if you cannot view the video below please click here.)

A Practical and Positive Guide
The book, 70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade, is a compilation from the conversations that Jane and Ellen had during gatherings with women of this era and from many of the women who contributed to their blog. The authors do a great job pulling all the pieces together into as they say, “a practical and positive guide to have at your side as you traverse your seventies.” Included are lessons learned from their gatherings, a review of pertinent literature on this topic, and a look at the future. In the back section is a handy reference with relevant web sites and additional readings.

The Taos Institute, the publishers of the book, kindly provided a copy of 70Candles! for a giveaway. Be sure to enter the Rafflecopter below and leave a comment on how you intend to stay vibrant during your second act.

Now let’s hear more from Jane and Ellen:

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Jane Giddan and Ellen Cole created the blog 70candles.com and wrote the book, “70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade.”

Q: Why did you start the blog 70candles.com?
A: “Dear friends since age fourteen, we visited together in Texas just before turning seventy. We couldn’t believe we were this age. Seventy sounded old to us, but we didn’t feel “old.” We wondered what lay ahead.

Academics that we were, we started reading to see what we could learn. But research we came upon was all about the downside of aging. We called them “sick granny studies.” We then decided to ask women themselves…and so the 70candles.com blog was born. It continues today with women from many countries responding to each other in heartfelt posts and comments. We invite your readers to join the conversation.”

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Q: What encouraged you to take the next step and write a book?
A: “We found few books on this subject, so early on we imagined writing one. The 70Candles! project eventually included gatherings of women in various cities. Women in these conversation groups let us know that they wanted to learn more about this period of life, in this era of extended longevity.

With knowledge we accumulated from our extensive reading, from the blog and the conversation groups, and through Ellen’s study in the Master of Arts in Positive Psychology program at the University of Pennsylvania, we felt we were ready to create a book. We were pleased that The Taos Institute, purveyors of the on-line Positive Aging Newsletter, was willing to publish it. It seemed a perfect fit.”

Q: What are the most important things you learned about septuagenarian women from your work on your blog and book? Any “aha” moments?
A: “We learned above all that women our age enjoy talking about this period of their life, and they welcome opportunities to share with other women. The issues summarized in our book, 70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade, are those that struck a chord with women everywhere.”

70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade; septuagenarian women; septuagenarians; positive aging

Q: What is different about women in their 70s versus 50s and 60s?
A: “We found that women turning 70 began to think, many for the first time, about years left to live, instead of years already lived. They began to think about their next step in housing-downsizing, perhaps, one-floor homes, even senior living facilities. And of course retirement was by now a done-deal or very much on their minds, so the 70’s, much more than the 50’s and 60’s, are years of re-creating and re-imagining one’s purpose and daily activities. We found this was especially true for professional women who had long identified with their careers.”

Q: I’m approaching 60 in a few years. Any advice for this decade and into my 70s for living a full life?
A: “Try writing your obituary, or if that sounds too maudlin, call it “My Life in Summary.” This is likely to point you in the direction of your best self in the years to come. Also, find ways to connect with age-mates, as we noted above. This is our #1 recipe for a long life well-lived.”

Thanks Jane and Ellen for sharing your wisdom. For more stories from women in their 70s, I encourage you to check out 70candles.com. And don’t forget to enter the Rafflecopter giveaway below. One lucky winner will receive a copy of their book!

Judi

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Learning and growing

Alice,  Age 75

I was 75 in april.  I have 2 married children and 6 grandkids ranging from 13 to 29.  Two of my my grandkids r married.  I taught art and ballet for 30 years for the NYC board of education in the south bronx.  It was a tough job but it prepared me for travel in many 3rd world countries.  When I retired I got a job as a tour guide and went all over the world for 2 years leading tours.  I got fired when my daughter had a baby and had post partum depression.  I asked for time off in high season and was told nobody gets time off in high season….if u leave it’s good by and good luck.  Of course I left and helped my daughter .

I have been divorced since 1970, but I live with a man since 1976. we r not married as i don’t believe in marriage for myself any more.  I have a home in south florida and a home in a ny suburb.  I take belly dance lessons and spend at least an hour a day walking my dog.  I try to travel when ever I can as a way of learning, and growing.  I hope to stay healthy enough to live a full exciting life…meeting new people, seeing new things, learning new languages, and connecting with my grandkids. this summer I plan to tour the Rhine river and amsterdam with my almost 16 year old grandgirl.  I hope she can keep up with me!!!!

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Reaching out to women in the SF Bay Area

Paula,  Age 74

This month I rejoined the world of many of you who walk this journey. I departed from a retirement job of 16 years.  Like all things the job and I had changed and I am moving on.  The moments in this separation are bumpy, unexpected and can lead me away from my true self.  It’s probably why I didn’t choose to leave earlier.

Rather than write the storyline, I am reaching out to women who live in the San Francisco Bay Area.  I want to create or join other women or men in a way that will help us all thrive and be happy.  I awoke this morning focused on my curiosity of how to be creative and positive in community.  Please email me if you are interested in joining me.  I welcome your response.

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What’s missing?

Bunny,  Age 70

Today is Sunday. After getting bored with FB I decided to google, ‘Info for women over 70’ and to my surprised you guys appeared.  I am thrilled.
I was born, raised, educated and continue to live in Southern California.  I was married 20 years and have been divorced for 20.  I have two adult children, and four grandchildren ranging in ages 18 – 2. I have one sister and one brother who live close by.  I love them all.  I am a retired educator, and a 10 year breast cancer survivor.
My life: I am on two non-profit advisory boards and two committees at church.  I belong two a book club, and one National Organization.  I have a game night every week with a group of friends and meet with another group of high school friends every three months or so.  I also have a base group that I have been friends with for 40 years or so and a few BFF’s, so why am I feeling like there is something missing?
I am in my bedroom that I have been trying to straighten up for weeks, to no avail.  Books, mail, magazines, clothes everywhere.  It is depressing…
I used to send info out on email regarding community events so much that I was encouraged to start a blog.  I said I would, but…I also started to write a series of travel books for children, but…
Physically, I have diabetes that is under control, high blood pressure that is under control, and I am having a problem with one of my knees. I am also overweight, but have lost 10 lbs in the last 3 weeks, so I am on a roll.  Most people guess that I am in my early 60’s, no wrinkles, no make-up and I just cut my hair and dyed the front blond. A new look for me.
I guess that’s about it. I’m so happy I found you.

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