Age is a mind set

 

Anonymous,  Age 73

I am turning 73 this January.  I live on my own…I have had a very busy life and experienced many wonderful things.

I am self employed and working!  I love my work as a designer.  I have worked through two marriages…It is important to me to stay in the best shape I can, learning new technology, looking great, “a bit of cosmetic stuff” to boost the self esteem, and trying to being current on everything! I have two wonderful grand daughters 19 and 22, who keep me on my toes…I drive a sports car and live in a loft; the stairs are great…travel when I can…

I don’t think age means a lot; it’s how you feel.  It’s a mind set…we have to keep moving and active to get the most from our lives.  The one thing I stay away from are “Old Age” venues etc…it’s just plain scary…I’m leaving that for the very last experience.

Cheers!!!

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Getting your 70Candles! book

Elena,  Age 71

I am reading the book 70 things to do when you turn 70 and in chapter 10 I found out about your blog and your book will be getting it soon.
About your 70gatherings in PA…where and when do you meet there? Would be interested to go depending if is not too far from Annapolis, Maryland.
Thank you and congratulations on making the book,

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Open to suggestions

Anonymous,  Age 70

I turned 70 recently, and that thought visits me more often than I would have expected. Neither good nor bad, it just jumps into my consciousness, and makes me stop and reset my head, so to speak.

I’ve been retired for a number of years, am in good health, though the body is aging in all the ways you might imagine. Got a new knee last January – an imperfect fix to say the least, but my physical stability is restored, and I can hike easy trails without pain again.

70 is supposed to be old. I don’t feel old in my mind. Maybe a little slower, but a lot wiser is all. I am a child of the 60s, and have maintained a progressive, intellectual outlook all this time. I know that people see me as older, but I just don’t care. Like most women, I noticed that I was invisible to men once I moved into my 50s. Their loss. Now, I have many younger friends and family members ranging from 7 to their 30s. I love them all, enjoy their company, and give them every opportunity to keep me up to date on the world they inhabit.

I divorced young after a nightmare marriage. No kids, which is really the only regret I have from my life besides that marriage. Personal freedom, solitude when I want it… I love this life at 70 more than I did at 50!

Right now, at 70, I am looking for more to do. I volunteer with kids, run book, hiking, and progressive discussion groups, and belong to a couple of others. Also have a little eBay shop. However, I still have a bit too much spare time. (No grandkids leave lots of time!) I’m open to suggestions!!!

Unless one has very poor health, I think our 70s are the gift of a lifetime! Freedom, wisdom, time to spend with loved ones-human and animal, our beautiful earth, listening to music, reading good books, and so much more.

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Our book is here!

70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade

by Jane Giddan & Ellen Cole—Available now!

We are proud to announce the arrival of our book, 70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade. It’s offered by Taos Institute Publishing and is available in paperback and as a Kindle download.
Here’s a brief description:
As we turned 70, we, Jane and Ellen, friends since childhood, set out to investigate how women our age and older were living their lives. We sought role models for ourselves and messages for the droves of baby boomers on our heels. We were curious about the challenges and joys of our age-mates, their work and retirement status, living arrangements, family and social connections, and more. It was clear they were not like their own grandmothers who sat in rocking chairs knitting. But what was the new normal?
This book, informative and even inspirational, describes what we found in our reading, our ongoing 70candles.com blog, and in the 70candles conversation groups we held in various parts of the U.S. Although we’ve have taken somewhat different paths, we agree that turning 70 and entering their eighth decade has, indeed, been momentous. “Welcome to old age.” We and our peers have found this new era exciting, sometimes scary, but full of opportunity. As developmental psychologists speak of life’s stages and phases and rites of passage, the purpose of this book is the recognition that 70 is something important, part of an intriguing new stage of life, not just a birthday like any other.
70Candles! is aimed at all women approaching 70 and in their 70’s and those interested in this journey—men, women, family and friends.
We hope you will check it out and pass this news on to others who might find it of interest.
Some early reviews:
“It may be strange to say this about a practical guidebook on woman and aging but this one is pure delight ― uplifting, engaging and alive with the voices of wise women. My favorites are the 95-year-old who has a martini every night and goes barefoot as much as possible, and Nina, the futuristic woman whom the authors conjure as the strong, self-sufficient oldie all of us can become with the aid of technology. In 2016, the baby boomers start turning 70. No woman should take that leap without 70Candles! at her bedside.”
―Letty Cottin Pogrebin, author of Getting Over Getting Older
’70Candles! offers wonderful wisdom, advice, and practical tips for making the most of life after seventy. In stark contrast to gloomy media portraits of aging, the authors show us how the later years can be filled with joy, excitement, and vibrant living. A book for every older person – and everyone who will become one!”
―Karl Pillemer, Ph.D., author of 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans
To order: taosinstitute.net/70candles
E-Book (Kindle) version available attention  the above link also.
A Taos Institute Publication, Tempo Series

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Moving on-seeking advice

Mary,  Age 73

Here I set at age 73 in an isolated location because my Husband has decided that the safety of his dogs is more valuable than my happiness. I am a people person and need to have people to interact with. I will be leaving soon by myself (My poodle dog will go with me). I plan on being closer to my Boy’s in Florida and trying to pick up the pieces of my life, or what is left.
If anybody has had like experience or advice. I would really appreciate it.
Mary

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The secret of longevity

Lynne, Age 71
Every day when I wake up I am surprised. Why is this? Well, both my parents died young. Mom at 49 (breast cancer) and dad at 52 (ruptured aortic anurysm). I had no parents since my early 20’s. Through the years I watched my friends and their children enjoy grandparents. In later years I watched them become caretakers of their elderly parents. They often said “longevity runs in my family” as their birthdays came…and kept coming. I had 3 terrific boys to raise within a very bad marriage. No safety net of parents meant I stayed in the marriage past when I should have left it. Finally, after 20 years of that, I went back to school, became economically independent and left the marriage. I then met the love of my life and re-married. My career flourished and I got the job of a lifetime…teaching Psychology at a local community college. My husband and I worked all we could (he was also in education) to get all 5 of our k ids through college, and grad school. Nothing was easy but we managed to do plenty of world travel on a budget and stay grateful to have each other. Our family was never the Brady Bunch but we managed and no one is estranged from anyone.

My husband (aged 75 now) is retired. I worked until 70 to optimize my social security payout. My first year of retirement, last year, felt kind of traumatic. My identity was gone. I didn’t feel bored so much as irrelevant. The “kids” don’t need us. Two of my sons got divorced. One got married. Then one got re-married. I had a granddaughter (yea!) but 3,000 miles away. Life moves on. Then I applied and was admitted to the Institute for Retired Professionals at the New School in NYC. I found a home at this teaching-learning community. So many courses! No tests or papers! So much new stuff to learn! I’ll be teaching (these are study goups and the teaching is called “coordinating”) my second course this term It is called “LUCK”. I spent a lot of time this summer researching the topic. It was a labor of love. Not for everyone I know, but if life-long learning is your thing then find some courses to take. My husband also became a member this year. We recently went to a lecture given by a well known gerontologist (Dr. Mark Lachs, who wrote “Treat Me Not My Age”). Dr Lachs told us that in terms of longevity genetics count for ONLY 20% of it!!! I was so happy to learn this. I don’t have to be so surprised to still be around! If you want to know what he told us is the #1 factor in how long you’ll live reply to this story and I’ll tell you.

One last thing I learned and I guess most of you know as well…being with friends, laughing , telling stories, sharing angst and joy and lots of wine enriches these years more than anything. I wish I could invite some of you over for some stories and wine. Let me know if you’re in the NYC area…or invite me to your place!

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Latin American views on aging

From Georgina,  Age 70

In Latin America growing old brings very particular satisfactions.  As we live our years, we are clearer about who we are and what we’re here for.

Society assumes we have this wealth of practical knowledge and wisdom accumulated because we have lived through so much history…the history of our family, of our country, of the world at large…

So, when you’re older, you are listened to, your counsel is sought, children want to know what it was like when you were their age, people seek your company…you embody the oral history that they are also a part of…

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What to do about depression?

Bonnie,  Age 70

  I have fought depression all my life and have been on meds for about ten years which has helped. But my seventieth birthday really turned an off switch in my head. My mom, who is 95 does extremely better than me. Her attitude is upbeat and although she doesn’t get out much except when I take her on weekly jaunts, she occupies herself with puzzles, etc. But nothing interests me. I have tried to find a mate unsuccessfully on dating sites and group outings, but I remain extremely lonesome. I do activities as movies, dinners with my gal friends about once a week which I enjoy, and I volunteer two full days a week. But the other times drag on unmercifully. I feel that if I had someone in my life it would really help, even though I know you ‘have to find happiness within yourself’…but obviously, that hasn’t worked for me. So I’d like to know if anyone else is in the same boat? I’m doing everything right, but still alw ays sad and on verge of tears. (Increasing meds didn’t help)

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Free to fly

Claudia, Age 74

Well, I am 74. Still feel I have vitality but perhaps it is on the wain! Life is still good but I do have a few issues with my kids and I’m hanging in there, just.

By the time one is 74 you would like to think you are free to fly and do what ever, but sometimes that isn’t possible for me. I am a senior solo traveller and enjoy being off on my own exploring new places. I became a widow 3+ years ago and have coped very well on my own. I need social media as I live in a very small coast town of 2000+ people and find social media takes me to places that are out of my local experience.

Have bought myself a Ford Transit Motor home and have been off touring with my son. It has been fun but I really would like to take off on a big adventure for my 75th birthday.

I have many friends and lots of interests, including making art, politics, movies, am in a book club, gardening, swimming etc. I love coffeeing with cake and don’t mind going off on my own, usually with my ipad or a book.

When budget travelling (youth hostels) I always have a nice dinner and my travel diary is my companion for this. So cheap days, expensive evenings.

I am the Grandmother of 5 boys and 1 girl and have had an enormous amount of pleasure playing with them as often as I can.

I do think about my mortality and know I should be organising my affairs but am a bit tardy in that regard. Still feel like I am going to be around for a while. Am I right or wrong? That is the question.

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Struggling at 74

Jean, Age 74

Turning 70 was a decade I always dreaded. Not for myself, but the concern of losing people I cared about. My health has been excellent and I am still working as a real estate agent with my own company that I started 4 years ago. This year everything changed. All the grandchildren are off to college and my twin sister died a very quick death from cancer . I took care of her for 4 months. All of a sudden I am aware of age related issues that never entered my mind before. So many deaths and health problems have happened and my own mortality is being questioned. My fears of turning 70 have been realized.

It is a struggle to be in my seventies and I fight it every day. My hobbies and interest such as exercise, gardening, reading and family still continue but changes have occurred. My feeling is that people look at you differently. You don’t feel old but I think family and friends think of you as a much older person. The discussion now is what is going to be the end result for us? Discussions center around retirement communities and Medicare. It seems like such a drastic change from 5 years ago. Are any of you experiencing this?

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