Flourishing in the Eighth Decade!

Women everywhere, welcome to our blogspot, a space for sharing experiences, thoughts, and ideas about how to overcome obstacles and thrive as we approach and endure in the eighth decade of life. We hope this exchange will be a source of inspiration for the next generation of seventy year olds. Those baby boomers are hot on our heels, and want to know more about what lies ahead. Nobody gave us a guidebook or shared what this path might be like. As we burn those seventy candles, we can help shed some light on the trail for them.

What has this transition been like for you? Serious, funny, commonplace, unusual, short, long stories, all are welcome. How does it feel to be among the oldest in the crowd? What does it take to thrive in this decade? How do you think others see you? What contributes to well-being and yes, flourishing at three score and ten?

We welcome the comments and reflections of women everywhere. All cultures, ethnicities, socioeconomic status and backgrounds; as diverse a sample as we can reach.

Please contribute brief anecdotes, observations, thoughts, ideas, and life stories by posting them in the comment section below.

Alternatively, you could email longer stories to us at 70candles@gmail.com. Please include information about your age, ethnicity/cultural background, geographic location, education, and work status. We will organize, collate, and share your emailed stories anonymously on this blogspot. Ultimately this may become a book about how our generation flourishes. Spread the word!! 

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Inspired by the 70Candles! book

Sandy, Age 71

Upon reaching 70, I thought that was the end of my world. People refer to us seniors. I’ve also heard the word”elderly” used in the newspaper to describe anyone over 60!! Unbearable and wrong. We are still youthful in our looks and thinking, ripe with life and work experiences and certainly filled with wisdom. The number 70 filled me with dread.

After reading the 70Candles! book, I felt a renewed sense of energy. I loved how these women were beginning new lives and taking chances. It gave me hope for the future, that there are still things to accomplish in life no matter your age. I recommend this book to anyone who thinks aging is an end, and not a beginning, to new life experiences.

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Too stubborn to let this get me down

Cherrie, Age 69

Hello. Who knew 70 would feel so lonely. I’m retired advanced practice nurse, for about two years. Still miss the patients and staff. Recently had a total knee replacement surgery and doing well. Except, it has brought up so many anxieties about aging. I have been crazy active and busy, this seems so alien. One step and one day at a time. Really, I think I’m too stubborn to let this get me down for long.

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LIFE is a great gift

Belita, Turning 70

Hello to ALL 70’S……On October 17….this year …2016, I am turning 70…I feel I am only 35…for some reason…..Usually on my Birthday….I love to travel….I was in Paris..when I turned 63…..then to Bejing, China on another Birthday….and another place …..and another Birthday….This year I am going to Kyoto, Japan. I feel blessed to be able to go around the World ….in different places….and to enjoy life fully…I have also done SKY DIVING…..with my youngest daughther….Rowena….Did the longest Zip Line in Haiti…..Done many Cruises……I am very happy for my Life and the many people…..around me….who love me and I love them back….I thank my parents for bringing me to this beautiful World…of ours…..LIFE is truly a great gift….It is priceless…..So ladies and gentlemen….Let US all celebrate being 70……WE are still young…..By the way I still LOVE my work…..and enjoying it….THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH to all.

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Still me!

Syd, Age 80

Turned 80 today and do not feel any different than I did yesterday.

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Do men feel differently about aging?

Cathy, Age 63

Hi – I’ve been reading the stories – preparing myself for my 70s. I am inspired by the many vibrant, energetic, resourceful women here, and hope that when as I grow older I will share the same philosophies.

My husband is 73 – so I am seeing through him, some of the things mentioned here. But not as positively. He seems to think that his life is over. He stopped playing golf because he can’t play as well, and doesn’t do as much physically as he used to, although he could – he’s physically capable, just chooses not to. We live on 30 acres and have a small fruit farm which he has all but abandoned (leaving me to do the the work). Talks about moving into an apartment, which I know I couldn’t stand.

It’s too bad – I can’t convince him that he still has a lot of living to do and to coax him out of his funk.

Funny the way some people can deal with age while others just can’t cope.

Reading these stories and seeing him is teaching me a lot about preparing myself for my 70s and beyond.

Thank you!

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Hard to plan

Gen, Age 69

Hi, I’ll be 70 in November, I’ve been saying that I’m 70 all summer. I’m kinda proud that I made it – well, I know I’ve got two whole months left to be 69.

Right now I don’t want to go into all of the things that have gone wrong over the past 10 years or how seriously messed up I have been physically in these later years. But it’s such that I have all sorts of problems and I still work. There were days I spent in a wheelchair and had to learn how to walk again, I’m getting stronger every day. The worst of my problems are behind me for the time being, I think. I have a terminal illness also but I’m fighting it, don’t like to think about it and most of the time I do alright.

Like I said, I am very proud to be age 70 although – some days I just don’t know how I actually got here, it seems like yesterday and I was a young woman. I’m still the same inside but wiser, wish I’d done some things differently and I can see where I was just plain stupid – a lot, many things that I regret.

But I still enjoy life and I’m not going to let all the “junk” in my life get me down if I can help it. Life is too precious to let it slap me in the face with problems all the time. Get upset and I drink a glass of wine, sit on the porch under the stars at 2:00 AM and love just resting with the sounds of the night. Daytime, I’m pretty busy most of the time and I have so many hobbies I don’t usually get anything done, but they do keep my mind busy. I’m a pianist so that’s good too, keeps me young, I think, always loving music and I teach.

My only real gripe is that it’s hard to plan anything because with all of the physical problems I might have a good day physically or I might have to change plans,….. now – that does get old!

So, that’s my story.

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Sephardic cooking

Rachel, Age 71

I retired from teaching at age 60 to spend a month with my daughter in LA as she was having her first child, my second grandchild. I continued to substitute teach and take orders for my ethnic Sephardic cooking. I started that small business after my first divorce in 1992: Rachel’s Sephardic Delicacies. (Sephardic refers to my heritage of Jews expelled from Spain in 1492 during the Inquisition.)

At 62 I was divorcing again! At 69 I started to write a cookbook using Word on my computer and at 70 it was published by LifeRich Publishing in 2015. The book is on Amazon.com: A LEGACY OF SEPHARDIC, MEDITERRANEAN AND AMERICAN RECIPES. So far, 72 books have sold online. I do local book signings and give cooking classes. I still substitute teach, take orders and volunteer bake for my Sephardic synogogue. I am also a co-president of my local retired school employees association in the state of Washington. I now have 7 grandchildren.

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Am I really 71!!!!!

Sheilagh, Age 71

What a charming web site, so happy to have found you. Am a British lady living in Montreal for over thirty years. Love it here except the winters are brutal, but I do stay in when it’s so cold. So ladies, I have a few health problems but guess how I deal with them. I eat only organic, drink lots of water and work out on a regular basis. I have done pilates regularly for about ten years and still do, but also do something called pilates stretch from my home which has an attachment for any door. I do this via Skype once or twice a week and also in my own. I hasten to add I only take synthroid for my thyroid. Take magnesium from the health store and vitamin e. I really don’t give in to my bad knees and cope with the exercise which alleviates the pain.

You know what, even if you are seventy try something new, and many of us are on our own, so rather than relying on other people just stay fit and chose our own old age. I am blessed with a son and daughter with my son having two girls and my daughter a son and daughter. I stay with her a lot and take care of my granddaughter who is fourteen months. I am an early riser and by five need to rest but am happy to be able to do this.

I have lived in many countries and have wonderful memories and am planning a trip to Ireland and England as soon as I can. So all you seventy year olds interested to hear what you have to say, and trust the sun is shining down on each and everyone of you.

Sheilagh Dagwell

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Women just know what you mean

Linda, Age 66

My husband is ill and has been for the past, what seems like 20 years. As his condition worsened I retired early to be his caretaker. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. Although I am technically not 70 yet, I am close and feel every bit that age.

I was a full time Human Resources Executive, for over 30 years. I believe the nurturing, helping people cope, as well as problem solving skills, are still being used daily. Being a baby boomer and given my value system, family came first in spite of my career demands. I put in long days at work, but many times those started at 5am rather than stay at the office till 7pm as often as I could, so I could also fulfill my family duties. Looking back I regret that, but I am as guilty as my family for creating and sustaining that. However I believe that made me stronger and prepared me for the role I play today. A woman today would never do that.

I found being home full time time was making me “crazy” so I work outside the home very part time just to see and meet people. The money is a pittance, but needed, given all of todays high medical and co-pay costs. The interaction I receive through working is irreplaceable. My tasks at home grow each day as his health declines however, I would not be able to cope or do this if it weren’t for my woman friends. How long will I “be able” to work is anyone’s guess, but it keep me vital in the meantime.

In the recent history I have lost 2 very dear friends. I have lost parents, a brother and 2 sisters, but nothing compares to losing a dear friend. They don’t send cards and send casseroles when you lose a friend. Friends are my glue to the outside world, without my female friends I’d be lost, whether they live 2 miles or 2000 miles away. Women just know what you mean, even if they haven’t experienced it, their compassion and ability to “hear” you is something you can not describe or put into words. Losing my best friend to an untimely death was like losing my right arm, it would have been easier to sever that arm. Nothing replaces the interaction and friendship she provided.

The thing I miss most about my husband is how we use to talk, the deep discussion about boundless subjects. Conversations with him now are near impossible and anything of depth is near impossible. Yet he was my most intimate friend. Only another woman gets that. Another woman understands that …most people don’t.

An hour conversation with a woman friend, a quick coffee, is like elixir. That time revives me. That time gives me strength. I expect that need to only grow as the years do.

I try to stay active by reading, its hard to be out of the house anymore than I have to. I lack craft and or artistic ability, but enjoy a good book or a provocative article, so I look forward to joining book clubs when my situation changes and that opportunity presents itself.

I guess that’s how we refer to “it” now, when our situation changes.

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Gathering in Southern California

Cindy, Age 69

Do you live in southern California?

I am trying to start a 70 Candles group for the Pasadena/Los Angeles area.
Due to the large area covered by Los Angeles county, I find women interested in forming a gathering might live up to 50+ miles apart. This makes it very difficult to meet personally on a regular basis. I thought I could moderate our communications through group e-mail.

Each month I would submit a topic of concern to launch a conversation through email. Of course, if you join the group it is understood that comments and personal details submitted would be confidential within the group.

Please let me know if you have an interest in joining us.

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