Follow your bliss

Arline, Age 70

Thank you for this opportunity for me and any women seventy’ish to share their stories.

About ten months prior to turning seventy, I told my husband that I would like to celebrate my seventieth birthday in Italy. I turned seventy on September 30th, 2012. He said, “what?” And I repeated my request. He quickly agreed and we began to plan a month’s vacation to Italy.

Italy had been a dream of mine ever since I was a freshman in college, taking a course in Ancient History. I had this desire to see the Collesium, Pompeii, Rome and many other ancient sites. This dream took quite some time to reappear and seemed to come bubbling up, almost a year before my seventieth. Perhaps it was because seventy began to feel like I was really getting older, and that I wouldn’t have forever to experience such a trip. Given that my husband and I are active, physically fit people with lots of energy, I felt the time was right.

Now almost two months past our return, I am still in awe of that magical country. We traveled from the Dolomites to Amalfi, and many places in between; dinner in Rome with our tour group on the night of my birthday, a night at La Scala to hear and see La Boehm. That was a pleasant surprise as we were able to get Galleria tickets the same day of the performance, and jumped through hoops to do so. We both teard up at the first aria duet. Hiking in the Cinque Terre was another high point literally and figuratively.

So, without going on and on….go for it. Seventy is as vibrant an age as we make it given our state of health, but perhaps more importantly, our state of mind.

I feel so alive from this experience, and also wonder where we might choose to go next in this wonderful world. Following our bliss at this point in our lives seems natural and important. What is your bliss at this time?

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Retiring But Not Shy-A new book edited by Ellen Cole and Mary Gergen

Retiring But Not Shy: Feminist Psychologists Create their Post-Careers (Cole & Gergen, 2012).

A review by Ellen Cole
adapted from the Feminist Psychologist Newsletter

This, of course, cannot be an objective book review. What I want to give you, however, is a sense of the vigor and the excitement, on the one hand, and the complexity, on the other, represented by “our” authors when they describe or envision their “retiring” lives. The chapter titles, themselves, tell a tale. Janis Sanchez-Hucles asks, To Stay or to Leave: What Are Retirement Options for a Feminist Woman of Color in the 21st Century? Nancy Schlossberg describes, “Creating a Lifetime of Possibilities: Moving On, not Moving Out”; and Stephanie Shields in “Do We Have Any Mustard: The Challenges of a Retired Spouse” writes of her domestic relationship. In her chapter, Bonnie Strickland describes the saga of being retired and then un-retired. Diane Willis writes of her finding meaning in retirement. Martha Banks examines some of the connections between disability and “early” retirement.

In her back-cover endorsement, APA and Division 35’s Past-President Melba Vasquez wrote, “…Readers (women and men, retired or not) will laugh and cry and relate to the humbling parts of life. We can all be inspired to make choices now to have meaningful and rich futures.” Michelle Fine, who wrote the book’s gorgeous introduction (Mary Gergen calls it a prose-poem), says this:
The writers are stunning as scholars and activists, and as a collective they are our Wonder Women. These are the women who dared to challenge disciplinary definitions of sex and gender; sexuality and identity; health and illness; beauty and femininity; science and narrative. So why am I surprised that in the tradition of radical feminism, these incredible women have also, individually and collectively, “queered” the definition of retirement? (p.20)

Who might be interested in this book? We believe it would be appropriate for professional women thinking of retirement at any age; teachers for courses on aging, women’s studies, adult education, biography, diversity, and the life‐span; anyone wanting a gift of life for a friend or family member; workshop leaders involved with mentoring, tenure, aging, retirement; and so on. You may order it online at www.taospub.net or email info@taosinstitute.net. It is available as an e-book or paperback at amazon.com.

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Thanks-giving

Elizabeth, Age 77

I am 77 and when my knees don’t hurt I feel like 47!

For 20 years until January, I worked for a florist, but got laid-off (he down-sized) at the beginning of 2012. The thing I liked most about working was the social network it provided; I miss being surrounded by people on a daily basis. However, I’m a gym rat now, my house is cleaner, and I don’t have to grocery-shop for a week’s groceries.

I am content being my age, because so many of my friends have serious health problems and have had to limit their activities. My husband and I feel fortunate that we are still able to do the things we like. He’s still working, 3 days a week, and still enjoying it.

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Atlantic article about women in their 70s!

Ellen was interviewed for this interesting article about our generation.

http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2012/11/what-boomer-women-can-learn-about-aging-from-gasp-older-women/265356/

Read and enjoy!

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Making informed choices

Pat, Age 72

Well, I don’t believe that “all things happen for a reason” or that what happens to you is part of “God’s plan”…sorry! I have found now that I am 72, that I have had to make choices (not always good ones), plan what I want to happen, then go for it and see what occurs. Some of my planning (remember the books “What Color is Your Parachute” and “Who Moved My Cheese”) worked out with perseverence. I also watched other women whom I wanted to emulate and was inspired. None of us got where we are by ourselves.

My mother had a college degree but my father did not want her to work…she did not really want to work, either, but she never used her brains “in the world.” Her self-confidence was lacking, possibly because of the expectations others put on what she should or should not be doing or interested in. I also saw when she was widowed at 42 that she had no idea how to handle the family finances. I vowed that would NOT be me, so I took a course in the stock market and learned as much as I could before I bought insurance or hired a broker.

I remember arguing with a young male insurance salesman whom we invited to our house. My husband and I wanted to get term insurance and the salesman argued with me as he wanted us to buy the more lucrative for him “whole life”. I almost came to blows!

I learned a lot going back to college when I was 37 and being helped by the Women’s Center there and women’s right speakers/authors such as Robin Morgan. Young women should not be afraid to ask their sisters for advice and help.

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Women still working after 60

Elizabeth, Age 70

My 70th birthday followed the publication of WOMEN STILL AT WORK–PROFESSIONALS OVER SIXTY AND ON THE JOB in June 2012 (Rowman & Littlefield Publishers). 70 Candles readers will be intrigued by the stories of older women who are continuing to work past conventional retirement age (part time or full time) and their reasons for doing so. BookList gave it a ***starred review***. You can go to https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781442215504 for reviews and more information.

A good friend sent me the link to 70 Candles. What a find! My book addresses most of the 70 Candles categories, including Work Life and Retirement, Health, Financial Challenges, Ageism, Family, and more.

As soon as WOMEN STILL AT WORK came out, older working men began asking, “What about us?” So, I am busily researching and writing a ‘sequel’ re Men Still at Work (to be published by Rowman & Littlefield in 2013-14).

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Seeking new passions

Star, 69 and 6 months

I recently stumbled upon your blog while surfing the Internet and am glad I found 70 candles, as I will be turning 70 in six months. I have been thinking how I want to celebrate this milestone and decided to plan a gift to myself. Even though I am married with 2 stepchildren and one grandson, I did not want to depend on them to do something. So last year I booked a walking trip of Tuscany to coincide with my special day. I will be celebrating in Italy with a younger girl friend who shares a birthday around the same time.

Turning 70 is not like turning 60. It sounds old to me even though I have heard that 70 is the new 50. Most of my friends are younger than me and luckily, I am blessed with good health so I can keep up with them physically and mentally. I am glad to serve as a role model for them as they age.

I recently retired from a 40+ career as a physical therapist. As I move into a new decade, I am looking for a new passion to sustain me into my seventies…

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Then and now

Hideko, I will be 70 this New Year’s Day

I miss the girl I used to be so many years ago
With three inch heels and slim of build
And heart with laughter filled.

I love the woman I am today
With orthotic shoes and wide of build
And heart with loving filled.

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Financial pain

Hi,

I made bad financial choices and lost all my retirement savings at age 69–trying to determine if anyone recovered from such a devastating experience? Is it too late to still enjoy life? I’m getting very depressed about the situation and would love to hear from other 70 year olds.

Thanks,
Abbie

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I Want to Live in a Blue Zone

Jane, Age 72

Blue Zones are areas in the world that have been studied because of the longevity of their populace.

Oh to live beneath the azure blue sky in Ikaria, Greece, where the air is clean and the water sparkles, pure and cold, and the hillocks beckon the walker. I would happily trade in my car, give up the rides to the Mall, to bask in the brilliant Aegean sunshine, tend hearty gardens, and eat wonderfully nutritious food…with my glass of wine.

This Blue Zone, described by Buettner, seems a dreamy place to live; long afternoon naps, pleasant evening with pals, and exceptional health. People there live unusually long lives; they are in good spirits, and they stay well, until the end.

Is it possible to borrow elements from that tableau…(My husband just brought home goat’s milk)…and reap some of the same benefits? Or is this American landscape already too polluted by chemicals in all we breathe, eat and drink?

Our exercise is contrived in gyms, not natural in the fresh air. Our meals come in various plastic packages, not pulled fresh from the land. Our environment is noisy with traffic, not peaceful with the sounds of nature floating around us.

It takes concerted effort, to even try to capture the essence of that place, and those lives. Fresh vegetables and fruit, yogurt without chemicals, lots of purified water to drink, more walking, more time with comrades, work that is joyful, pleasure that is frequent.

Okay, I’ll try the goat’s milk, but first, another glass of wine!

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