Linda, Age 69
I am so happy I found your site. I will be 70 in August and have been pondering,”Now what?” That’s what I googled and found 70candles. I have taken your advice on makeup and hair, even got a short asymmetrecial haurcut that I had wanted to try since in my twenties. I figured it was now or never lol.
I was married for 27 years to a man who cheated on me for 25 of those years. When our children were 24 and 20 they said,”Mom you don’t have to live like this,” and I thought,”I don’t?”
It took me a while to find the old me and I sure like her. Nine years ago I sold my house and moved to a small mountain town to be near my daughter and two small grandchildren. It is very remote not much shopping or entertainment for 150 miles. It was great for a while, but now the grand kids are older and busy with their friends and sports. My daughter has gone through two divorces in nine years and now is struggling on her own. It is wearing me down and I’m thinking,”Now what?”
I would love to move someplace warm but I have muscular dystropy and use a scooter. Someone has to come every morning to get me up then I am good to go for the rest of the day. My son lived with me until last year and then he married and I am so happy he found such a wonderful woman. They moved back to the city where we lived for thirty five years. Things have gotten hard since he left he is very kind and helpful. They want me to live with them but that is no way to start a new marriage.
I had my home built for me nine years ago with my MD in mind. My daughter had one built across the street which was so nice for both of us. I kept the grand kids while she worked and she helped when I needed it but as I said before that was two divorces ago and she has been long gone from there for five years.
I have great neighbors that help. I’ve tried hired help and have gone through five aides in two years. They either don’t show up or steal. It’s a small town and not many to choose from.
I use the computer to do my banking and pay my bills on line. Have a smart phone, a kindle and keep in touch with old friends and my sisters who all live in different states. I also have two little chihuahuas so I’m not really lonely or bored. But I sure would like to have some fun!!!
So going to be 70 and now what?
Linda, I don’t quite know how this site works, but I want you to know I enjoyed reading your post because you seem to get to the gritty quickly and I hear no self-pity nor self-aggrandizing. I will be 70 in September and am quite alone myself. You are apparently much more tech-savvy than I am 🙂 I use a plain “vanilla” cell phone with limited minutes and am able to read books from the local library. Having been “kicked to the curb” at age 42 (21 year marraige), I have rescued 4 (now 3) dogs and 3 cats. I dislike seeing them age, but they will leave here knowing they are forever loved. So I know your 2 chihuahuas fill your home with joy and love. I, too, have neighbors that I greatly appreciate, but they have lives outside of home and are all very social. Having grown up in the country and devoted my life to family, I just do not fit in the usual social, chatty circles. My chilren are self-supporting, fine people with families of their own (with all obvious demands this calls for) and it seems there just isn’t the sense of community and family as when you and I were younger.
Sorry for my rambling, Linda.. Most days I deal with being alone just fine, but sometimes that old ugly loneliness steals in on a Sunday afternoon. Hope you are well.
JonnieSue,
Welcome to our 70Candles blog!
It works simply…Just enter comments or new posts, as you have, and watch for others to respond.
Post as often as you like…Perhaps you’ll meet a new friend here..and some interesting
conversation for those Sunday afternoons.
Jane