Do you feel lonely?

Postings from some of our contributors describe isolation and loneliness. Some see no way out of this predicament. AARP has been focusing on this issue and has published the informational brochure we’ve attached here.

See what you think of their recommendations. Would this be helpful to you or someone you know? Are they missing anything?

Let us know what you think.
Jane and Ellen

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3 Responses to Do you feel lonely?

  1. Jeanne says:

    I read the article and I do agree.
    I retired a little over a year ago. One of the first things I did was to subscribe to your blog. I also bought 2 of your books. I was hungry for answers and help. I felt like a fish out of water. I was drowning. I read other women’s stories, read your books and applied myself. I joined two groups in my church with women who had the same values and interests. I joined the committee for our bazaar which is held in November. I am a knitter and knitting items are in demand because young people are not learning to knit and our older knitters are dwindling. As of now I have over 60 items to donate. It gives me certain pride and accomplishment. My son and his family are in charge of a toy booth. So having extra time, I have purchased over 50 toys at great discounts. The church allows a small budget for purchasing.
    So my advise to you is go out there, volunteer, join groups, and before you know it you will have to budget your time and schedule.

  2. Diana says:

    If we’re going to talk about loneliness, I think that those of us who don’t feel lonely should be very careful not to discourage others from posting. We should avoid the ‘all you have to do is join a group/volunteer/join a church, etc…..’ superficial responses. If ‘curing’ loneliness were so simple, there would be no lonely people.

    As a whole, Americans are lonelier than ever before. We no longer sit on our porches and chat to neighbors as they walk by or join women’s special interest clubs. In general, we’re angrier and more isolated than ever before in our history.

    Am I lonely? At this point in my life, no. I have a husband, family, and a busy life.

    But I no longer have the wide group of friends that I had at 17, or 37, or even 57. The deprivations of age have robbed me of some of those I was once close to. They died, moved closer to children, or became absorbed in caring for a spouse. Work friends disappeared when I retired. And my neighbors are friendly and there when I need them, but we have little in common.

    There is no one-size-fits-all solution to a cultural problem that’s impacting us all.

    On a personal level, if I’m left alone in my little hilltop house, I’ll just move on to a senior community of some kind and hope to find a kindred spirit or two there.

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