Phyllis, Age 70
I have just read your blog…..Excellent!
I turned 70 in November last. It was and is truly a time of reflection. I lost my husband 7 years ago and have learned to lead a single life. Would I trade it by seeking out and securing a mate ? I had an almost 40 year old marriage that was, albeit some ups and downs as is normal, a very good one. I married at 24 years of age, going from my parents home to my marriage home. For the first time, when my husband died, I found myself living alone. Luckily, I had many friends, but most of them were married and had lives of their own. I was working, but the weekends were difficult. I went out with a few single women friends, but felt dissatisfied. Five years later, I packed up, left my job, and moved on to a new city where my sister and son lived and made a new life.
I now work part time in a totally new field of work, have made new friends, and am enjoying my family.
So the question is, do I seek out a mate, or do I enjoy life as a single woman. I have opted for the single life. I do what I want, when I want to, I answer only to myself. Selfish? No I do not think so. Most of my life was spent raising children and taking care of aging parents.
Hopefully, I will be granted healthy years ahead to enjoy my children, grandchildren and friends. But I do so alone.