Anonymous, Almost 70
How grateful I was to find your site.
I will turn 70 in 2 weeks time, and I have gone from never thinking about aging, dying etc., to it doing my head in.
I think once I have had this birthday I will be fine, I know it’s only a number, but there is something about 70 that’s rather daunting.
I am in good health, financially comfortable, loving daughter and granddaughter, good friends, I travel often, and generally am a happy person, but this birthday like no other has bought up many things I never used to think about, nor really want to confront.
My daughter does not want to acknowledge I am getting older, more as a self protection aspect than any other, so I try not to discuss it with her, but as I am on my own I find it hard, as we are very close.
I will continue to read all the lovely stories on this site and pick up some tips from others who have reached this milestone.
Wanda Age 70
I turned 70 last summer. It was hard to accept, unlike my other birthdays. I retired 15 years ago after working 27 years. My husband just recently quit working. During our marriage, we did not live in either of our hometowns, and we moved several times. Our careers took up practically all of our time , leaving out time to spend with friends. Mainly we spent time doing what needed to be done at home and visiting our parents and doing for our two children. We socialized some with coworkers–company parties, occasional dinners, and occasional parties at others’ homes, but no real close friendships for me. Neighbors for 30 years were only acquantancies. This is what I regret–no close friendships. I was particularly lonely during the time I was retired and my husband continued working. I have tried Bible study, my professional retirement group, volunteer work, luncheons, etc., but it is difficult to make new friends. I go to the get- togethers, but nothing happens in between!! Maybe I’m too particular at this age; maybe I just don’t know what to do. I can find plenty of responsibilities to keep me busy!! I would love to travel more, but the husband refuses. I feel lost as to what to do with myself to make life more meaningful. I feel like I need to get my life more balanced and organized to enjoy it more. I can’t do things as quickly and with as much energy as I used to do, and I feel a sense of urgency to do as many fun things as I possibly can now, because TIME IS RUNNING OUT! When I found this website, I was searching for a description of what women my age are doing with their time so that they feel content and happy. I would love any suggestions for finding a few close friends. I really need more social support. It’s scary to think about what might happen to me in the future if I lose my husband.
What city do you live in, Wanda?
Wanda, you are asking exactly the right question. My favorite quote from a psychologist named Chris Peterson is, “Other people matter.” I think he also said, “There is no such thing as a happy hermit.” It seems to me that by asking the question you are ready to find answers that work for you. For me, when I relocated several years ago I knew I wanted to connect with women age-mates in two ways: tennis (I fondly call it Old Lady Tennis) and a bookgroup. I found both just like you are doing–asking around. Good luck with your quest, and please let us know how you are doing.